Ray looked after me throughout our relationship - he eventually gave up work to look after the kids and home and i continued to work. Virtually every Saturday he brought me breakfast in bed and as his hands were full he used to nudge the mattress to let me know he was there if i was asleep or hadn't seen him.

During one of my darker moments as I laid in bed longer than i should have, I felt the mattress of the bed move, unsure if I had moved, I lay still and waited and sure enough I felt a second nudge on the mattress and knew Ray hadn't forgotten my morning nudge though he didn't bring me breakfast in bed, I felt the darkness shift allowing me to get up and face the world.